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I am Eric’s Wife. I am also mother to two teenagers on the very cusp of adulthood, the founding director of Scripture from the Heart, an avid world watcher, bold and insecure at once. I serve a merciful God and I love a guy who makes my knees weak. This is where I write about it all.  Thank you for reading!

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Looking Awful, Feeling Bold

July 10, 2020

According to people who have seen me lately, I look awful. And, it’s not “you need a nap” awful, no, it’s “Can I call someone? Why did you leave your house?” awful. I appreciate the concern, even though it hurts my feelings. I don’t love making announcements on a blog, but it feels warmer than Facebook, even as it is more sterile than in person. Forgive the medium.

The reason I look awful lately is because I feel awful. The relapse that hospitalized me back in February let up for a few months, but it is still going on and is getting a little bit worse every day. I have three lesions on my brain and one on my spine. My symptoms seem related to the spine and some to cognitive function.

Next week I am meeting with my neurologist and having another MRI. This meeting and MRI is to confirm what I’m feeling in my body and to discuss what’s next. I’ll be discussing that information in further detail on my health related blog.

News aside, this is not my health related blog, but my health has certainly colored my view of the world since we been throttling through 2020. I have been given a front row seat to the reality some are only seeing for the first time. “Normal life” is an illusion that never existed. A life without peril never existed. We have all, always, been living our lives on the very brink of disaster every day from the moment of birth until we die. It has always been the truth, but 2020 seems to be a big ol’ highlighter.

So, if you are new to life as a roller coaster that never ends, welcome!! If you are sad to hear that it never ends, do try to keep up. The roller coaster will not stop for you to straighten your hat. You can take a moment to adjust your hand on the rail, but be prepared for the rail to suddenly disappear.

Through my 2019 and 2020 I have been made to (by principal of church obligations, not personal piety) memorize and meditate on the words of Micah, James, and John. I have memorized most of Micah, all of James, and almost all of 123 John. This work is what has saved my sanity in this storm. I tell all of my friends and strangers to memorize Scripture. I believe it is imperative now more than ever.

Fear does us no good in this climate. I see fear everywhere. I confront it personally with some people and have heard the response that some fear is reasonable. Hear me: NO FEAR IS REASONABLE. Perfect love casts out fear. John told me that and I believe it.

I’m not on my death bed, but do please hear me from my fainting couch. I only know to consider it all joy when I face trials of various kinds because I meditated on the words of James. Reading is fine, but you’re really only skimming the Word if you aren’t meditating on it. 2020 needs Word meditaters and believers. Currently we have more news meditaters than Word meditaters and it shows.

Advice: How to be Deeply Humble in Half the Time

June 30, 2020

Who doesn’t love the presence of a deeply humble person in the room? I know I do. But, have you ever looked at the lifetime of failure, loss, recovery, failure again, repent, repent again, apologize, speaking up, staying silent, and just generally coming in second place that it takes to be deeply humbled? Who has the time? Not me, and I bet you don’t either. Grab you a pen and take some notes. This will be very helpful.

The first thing you might notice about a humble person is that they have spent many hours in quiet time, meditation, and prayer. This being the end of days, you need to concern yourself more with the appearance of such a lifestyle because time to invest is over. Find a cozy corner in your house, pour a cup of coffee, open your Bible to something extra fancy, like Psalms or something, but not Haggai. Nobody reads Haggai. Now, when you are feeling super in the moment, take a picture with your phone and post to social media. Hashtag quiettime, hashtag coffeeandJesus, hashtag mostimportant.

After posting your picture, you will start to get a lot of social media notifications. This is a good sign that your example is doing its work. Your response to these comments needs to be carefully measured. If you respond too quickly, it will look like your quiet time was a photo op and you know you spent a for real 20 minutes reading with your phone face down, so, like, be cool about responding.

While time with your Bible might seem like a key feature to growing in spiritual maturity and humility, an unsung hero of spiritual growth is spending hours reading and watching news reports about current events. It is fine if you invest in one news source and read mostly headlines. In fact, if you can can create an echo chamber that reinforces and congratulates you for your opinions, all the better. Share news reports with your friends and family who do not know the bad news. They need to know these things and you are doing them a favor.

Because you have invested so much effort into being informed, you need to use your platform to share in great detail your feelings. Feelings matter and yours are especially important to whatever the news of the day is. Never forget how vital your voice is. Specifically you. If you don’t speak up, who will?

Once you have started the brave and humble act of speaking up on a matter, you might find yourself in a chorus of many others, also speaking up. There might be a strong temptation to feel pride at having joined such an elite bunch, but, resist! Pride in humility is understandable, I mean, look at you! You are a fine specimen of humble appearance, even as your muscles tremble at the exertion. The good news is that the end is near, so you will only have to maintain this humble effort for a very short while.

I hope you have found this advice to be very helpful. Humility is something I have gotten very good at, so I imagine this advice will be used far and wide. As always, you are very welcome.

Advice: How to Destroy Your Family’s Love of Peanut Butter

June 25, 2020

Now, aside from allergies, I can hear you asking, “But, Amy, why on earth would you want to destroy your family’s love of America’s favorite sandwich go to? Think about the cookies!!” And to you, I’d say that I did not set out to destroy my family’s love of peanut butter, but I did so with great success and I want to share my complete victory here. Maybe you are a mother who has made a thousand PB&Js and you are done. Whatever your reason is for wanting to destroy your family’s love of peanut butter, read on. Let’s learn something together.

It all started with me thinking that I had exceptional skill in the kitchen. I do all right behind the stove, and 20 years at it has seen lots of practice. Not once, even that time I substituted orange drink for orange juice in an orange chicken recipe, has my family cried uncle. But then, the day came when I had 1.5 pounds of beef tips, too much peanut butter, and Google. Enter: Thai Peanut Beef.

The sauce was a mix of peanut butter, soy sauce, brown sugar, ginger, Sriracha sauce, and a touch more peanut butter because it looked like it needed it. The recipe was for stir fry, but, who has time? What I did, and what you should definitely do if you want to heed my advice, is to put it all in the crockpot. Set on “Low” so it can slow cook all day for maximum effect.

This is the part where science that I can’t understand and can’t explain takes over. Your house will smell like a peanut butter cookie. All of the spices you added to the peanut butter will be absorbed by the beef tips. After several hours, you will feel like you can test a piece of meat for doneness. One bite and you will be convinced that you have hit recipe gold and your family is going to be begging for Mom’s Thai Peanut Beef for special treat meals. But, don’t buy the plaque just yet.

The recipe will give you options for serving. Some serve this meal over a ginger spiced salad, some use rice, but still others like to use pasta. In my case, I had recently made an excessive spaghetti noodle purchase at Costco during the great toilet paper and pasta rationing of 2020 episode we had, right before the murder hornet episode. I decided to go with spaghetti noodles, and you should, too, if you want to win this challenge.

Time to serve your family. Oh boy. They have been smelling peanut butter all day, the beef tip taste test was a major win, mouths are watering, the darlings can hardly wait. In your best dinnerware, slop out a generous pile of pasta and then use a ladle (yes, you want to be sure they get lots of sauce) to drench the pasta with peanut sauce and beef tips.

Remember that mysterious science we covered earlier? Here is where it will pack its punch. The beef tips are tolerable and eaten with no complaint. The pasta, the sauce, oh you, that sauce. What you served your family turned out to be spaghetti noodles with hot peanut butter and bits of spicy beef tips. I don’t mean spicy peanut butter, that might have saved the day, I mean just hot, melty peanut butter.

As proof that my advice here is solid, Eric just walked in on me searching for stock images of peanut butter for this post, “WHAT ARE YOU DOING!? PLEASE NO!!”

I hope this advice has been helpful. You are very welcome.