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Some may say I am a "Stay at home Mom," but that is not even close. I am Eric's Wife. I have exhilarating strokes of genius, followed almost immediately by paralyzing pangs of self doubt and, for whatever reason, here is where I blog about it - warts and all. I serve a merciful God with a clumsy hand and at the end of each day I go to sleep thankful to be His servant and Eric's wife.

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Dating Advice for College Freshmen

May 19, 2020

If you’re an incoming college freshman girl, I bet this title got you all excited. It’s not click bait, friend. From my overwhelming wealth of experience when I, myself, was a college freshman girl and dating, I am going to offer the visage of my example. Clearly, I am a happily married woman now, so I was doing something right.

Now, the first thing you need to remember is to not appear desperate. Let’s say that it is your dream to one day get married and have children. If that’s you, you run the risk of looking thirsty when you lay that out as a personal life course for anyone to know about. Keep that information very tight lipped. A better choice is to spread the word that you are actually not interesting in dating at all. Say something spiritual like, “I’m just trying to get closer to God right now,” or something. People really admire that.

When you have well laid the understanding that you are not looking to date at all, you are free to make “friends” with every guy you meet. First, they love having your friendship and they respect you for not being easy. Second, all men are complicated and they like us to be puzzles they have to figure out. No mystery, no interest. (I hope you are taking notes or screenshots or whatever. This will all be very helpful.)

Because you have built a tower of “not dating” stacked on top of “just friends” stacked on top of “he’s like a brother”, it will take a guy who really loves you to fight his way to your window. If he can climb that tower, and a really good guy will at least try, all you have to do is wait for him to ask you on a date. NEVER ask him yourself. Men hate it when we take the lead. Remember, they need you to be mysterious and they like a challenge.

Once you are finally on that first date, you will quickly throw him off if you act like he is your only option. If he thinks that your attention for that period of time is fully on him, he will get confused. Clear things up for him by dropping the names of old boyfriends, dates, and current guys who are “just friends”. Knowing that you have a lot of guy friends will put him at ease, because he will know that you can communicate with the complicated male heart. Hearing about your ex-boyfriends will help him see the side of you that is perfect for the right guy and he’ll feel competitive to win your heart from your ex.

I cannot tell you what to do on the second date using my methods, because I rarely had one. Lots and lots of first dates. Not many second dates. I don’t think it was anything I did, it just wasn’t the right time. The advice is still pretty solid.

So, you know, do you. This concludes my dating advice for college freshman. Good luck to you all.

2 responses to “Dating Advice for College Freshmen”

  1. Carolyn Counterman says:

    Remind me: discretion is the better part of Valor, right?đŸ˜¶

  2. Eric's Wife says:

    I didn’t learn discretion until very recently. Still foreign concept. Bloggers gotta blog. 😀