I wrote a post a few days back about my campaign to have a proper Valentine’s Day. The day began with lovely roses, a funny, yet deep, card, and then the evening ended with a lovely pair of earrings from Diamond Nexus. Eric really did go above and beyond to make it great.
I joked about how I had forced his hand to make it happen, but I assure you that I was only joking. What really happened was that I communicated to my husband that I desired a Valentine’s something, even though I know it is a holiday invented by marketers for the purpose of making ladies like me think they are missing out if they don’t get something. I know the truth and I don’t care. Even in the face of having to admit that I am a sucker for advertising, I confessed this desire to my husband and he happily obliged, because nothing makes my husband happier than when I tell him something straight up instead of hinting about it.
He loves to make me happy and he especially loves it when he knows he is doing exactly what I want. I don’t think this is an unusual trait in a lot of spouses. I think the missing link for some of us is that we do not communicate with any kind of precision what we expect. I’m the sort who likes to offer a million hints as to what I want and then lie in wait to see if Eric figures it out. This is why I spent 12 Valentine’s (including the one where we got engaged) with no roses and no jewelry, even though a Valentine’s hoopla was a pleasure I had always wished for.
If you are a hint dropper like I am, do yourself a favor and try being more direct. It is possible that you married a hint non-reader like I did. Even if you are not married, hint droppers could all stand to try to be more direct. The world at large cannot be held responsible for missing clues, even if you text them clues, e-mail them clues, and/or hack their e-mail to sign them up for clues.