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On February and Morality

February 23, 2008

February has long been my favorite month of the year. I was baptized on February 17, 1988. My on again off again smoking addiction ended February 22, 2007 when I stopped and vowed to never pick it up again (and I haven’t had a lick of nicotine since thanks to!). Eric and I got engaged on February 14, 2000 (the fact that it was Valentine’s day only occurred to us afterwards). I was diagnosed with MS in February 1995 (doesn’t sound positive, but it is in its own weird way). I learned about “the wall” in February 2004.

My baptism is the most significant event that I have experienced in a February. I like to take advantage of the anniversary and spend much of February reflecting on concepts I have learned (or discarded) over the year since my last anniversary. This year Mom encouraged me to actually write a list. I have a nasty habit of picking up random spiral notebooks and making notes on the first page that opens to me. This means that there are countless (okay, maybe ten) notebooks with undated thoughts scribbled throughout in no particular order.

In order to keep things tidy and because I think this blog will someday be a gift to my kids to help them know their ol’ Mom better, I now present my lessons learned in 2007-2008. Mom asked for a list. I made one, but it appears to boil down to one topic: Morality.

Morals cannot be based on human experience. If I wrote a book about this one, I would call it, “I’m Okay, God’s Okay”. We, as the body of Christ, all too often determine our morals based on human experience instead of God’s final word. This is not a new concept. Eve “saw that the fruit was pleasing to the eye” and so she ate it.
This year I found myself re-evaluating my stands on certain areas. Was my stand based on God’s law, or my opinions of what God meant when He said certain things? How often do we as a people give God a voice that is not His because we want what we want to be what God wants?
Divorce is an excellent example. “God wants me to be happy.” Does He? Show me where He wants your happiness more than your obedience.
So much of everything we do is based on what we think God means. We also pick and choose which verses He meant to be forever and which ones were meant for those people in that time. Evidently, homosexuality, abortion, and divorce were only wrong for a certain time and we have evolved so much in wisdom that we can now condone and even celebrate our freedom to indulge.
I just listed the obvious areas above. It’s easy to point fingers when I myself do not struggle with homosexuality, or notions of divorce. But, what about harboring hatred? What about stewing for weeks, months, years even about something someone has done or said? (I could say more about this exact thought, and perhaps I will one day.)

There is such a thing as moral absolutes. This one stings a little to type out. There are certain moral absolutes that we accept easily, and others that we try to dress up as something different than they are.
We know that murder is wrong, but what about murderous thoughts?
Adultery is wrong, but what about simple escapism fantasy?
Gossip is wrong, but what about a very detailed prayer request for a friend (made public because we really want a lot of people to be praying for said friend)?
Our culture of tolerance has led many to assume that “I have my own moral absolutes, but they don’t apply to everyone”. I don’t think that’s true. You either believe all of the Bible, or none of it. We can’t keep lowering the standard God has given us to allow for the standards of others.

My final thought really sums up how I intend to apply morality to my own life. If I can’t be called a hypocrite, my moral standards are too low. By this I mean that I know I will be rightfully accused of hypocrisy because the morality I own is a very high standard. My Father has a high standard and it is to that standard that I strive to live. If I aspire to never be accused of hypocrisy I would be either a Pharisee or a liar.

So, there you have it. Sometimes I think that if I could go back, I would have been baptized in June because it is much easier to spell June over and over again without spell check. But then, I would still have to tango with hypocrite and hypocrisy – both of which I found quite tricky.

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2 responses to “On February and Morality”

  1. Sarah says:

    Those sticky parts of the Bible are hard to deal with, especially when explaining them to my kids…

  2. Wonderful blog=) I am going to require a decent amount of time to entertain the stuff=)