Comments on: Stinking Hard Work http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/ No Need to Panic. I'm a Professional. Sat, 31 Jul 2010 23:49:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: anonymous http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/comment-page-1/#comment-9745 anonymous Sun, 27 Dec 2009 06:13:25 +0000 http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/#comment-9745 The other marriage thing that people tend to shy away from speaking of is...intimacy...ok, s-e-x. Couple of my thought: FOR WIVES - at least every other day. YES, every other day. Males are built differently and they need that. Or else they will go somewhere else. For HUSBANDS - porn is WRONG. Resist it. It will do nothing but hurt your marriage. The other marriage thing that people tend to shy away from speaking of is…intimacy…ok, s-e-x. Couple of my thought: FOR WIVES – at least every other day. YES, every other day. Males are built differently and they need that. Or else they will go somewhere else.
For HUSBANDS – porn is WRONG. Resist it. It will do nothing but hurt your marriage.

]]> By: Anonymous http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/comment-page-1/#comment-1748 Anonymous Thu, 29 Mar 2007 09:35:00 +0000 http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/#comment-1748 I'm Amy's favorite! Nyah, Nyah!!! I’m Amy’s favorite! Nyah, Nyah!!!

]]> By: Amy http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/comment-page-1/#comment-1744 Amy Wed, 28 Mar 2007 17:19:00 +0000 http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/#comment-1744 Yes, Damon. I tell all my cousins spouses that Gina picked a winner. I feel like the whole world should know. Yes, Damon. I tell all my cousins spouses that Gina picked a winner. I feel like the whole world should know.

]]> By: Anonymous http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/comment-page-1/#comment-1734 Anonymous Wed, 28 Mar 2007 02:10:00 +0000 http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/#comment-1734 I'll bet you say that to all your cousins' spouses...<br/><br/>I'm only half-way through; I'll be home around Memorial Day. We will be at the reunion (so you get to see me) if Carlee cooperates. If she comes early, we may have enough recover time. Otherwise, she'll only be about three-weeks old, and Gina won't be up to travelling. Carlee will probably not be excited about the trip, either. Or, she may be oblivious... I’ll bet you say that to all your cousins’ spouses…

I’m only half-way through; I’ll be home around Memorial Day. We will be at the reunion (so you get to see me) if Carlee cooperates. If she comes early, we may have enough recover time. Otherwise, she’ll only be about three-weeks old, and Gina won’t be up to travelling. Carlee will probably not be excited about the trip, either. Or, she may be oblivious…

]]> By: Amy http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/comment-page-1/#comment-1728 Amy Tue, 27 Mar 2007 14:04:00 +0000 http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/#comment-1728 I really do appreciate your thoughts, Damon. Gina got a real winner. <br/>Are you about done with Guam yet? I really do appreciate your thoughts, Damon. Gina got a real winner.
Are you about done with Guam yet?

]]> By: Anonymous http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/comment-page-1/#comment-1726 Anonymous Tue, 27 Mar 2007 09:58:00 +0000 http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/#comment-1726 Actually, I had been considering some of those same thoughts in dealing with some neighbors. I was also in a "preacher zone" at the time since I had just preached at the small congregation here on Guam. They are currently without a full-time minister here, so the men take turns. <br/><br/>I am humbled that you pushed my comments to the front like that. Thank you for appreciating my own ramblings, I just pray that I am a genuine help for others. Actually, I had been considering some of those same thoughts in dealing with some neighbors. I was also in a “preacher zone” at the time since I had just preached at the small congregation here on Guam. They are currently without a full-time minister here, so the men take turns.

I am humbled that you pushed my comments to the front like that. Thank you for appreciating my own ramblings, I just pray that I am a genuine help for others.

]]> By: Anonymous http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/comment-page-1/#comment-1722 Anonymous Sun, 25 Mar 2007 09:36:00 +0000 http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/#comment-1722 When the apostle Paul talks about the Christian walk, he refers to it as a very long race and as a battle. <br/><br/>In 2 Corinthians chapter 11, he lists various things he suffered for doing the will of God. He told the church at Philipi "...to live is Christ, to die is gain" because he understood the big picture. We were never promised that life would be easy. In fact, we are promised that we will face problems just for being Christians. <br/><br/>My point is this: Satan is good at what he does. He convinces people that Christians are supposed to be "perfect". He does this for two reasons. First, it causes those outside the church to feel they can never make it. Second, when problems come for the Christians, it causes us to doubt our salvation.<br/><br/>Christianity is very "stinking hard work", as you have so eloquently stated. What those outside do not see is how hard we work every day to defeat the powers and schemes of Satan. They only see outward signs that, with God's help, we are winning. <br/><br/>A truly good marriage is that way because of the Glory of God! It happens because a man and a woman make it their goal to be the best Christian that he and she can be. Problems exist because we are humans, therefore, imperfect. We should not be embarrassed by them or try to bury them. That only amplifies the problem, and Satan wins. I am proud to say that in almost 10 years of marriage there have been "moments", as David Fraze put it so well at our wedding. Those "moments" have made us stronger as a couple, and as Christians. I know there will be many more in the next 50-70 years. God will guide us through them, too.<br/><br/> -- Damon<br/><br/>PS - Chris, I think the passage you referenced is Titus 2:3-5. the next three verses say the same thing about us men... When the apostle Paul talks about the Christian walk, he refers to it as a very long race and as a battle.

In 2 Corinthians chapter 11, he lists various things he suffered for doing the will of God. He told the church at Philipi “…to live is Christ, to die is gain” because he understood the big picture. We were never promised that life would be easy. In fact, we are promised that we will face problems just for being Christians.

My point is this: Satan is good at what he does. He convinces people that Christians are supposed to be “perfect”. He does this for two reasons. First, it causes those outside the church to feel they can never make it. Second, when problems come for the Christians, it causes us to doubt our salvation.

Christianity is very “stinking hard work”, as you have so eloquently stated. What those outside do not see is how hard we work every day to defeat the powers and schemes of Satan. They only see outward signs that, with God’s help, we are winning.

A truly good marriage is that way because of the Glory of God! It happens because a man and a woman make it their goal to be the best Christian that he and she can be. Problems exist because we are humans, therefore, imperfect. We should not be embarrassed by them or try to bury them. That only amplifies the problem, and Satan wins. I am proud to say that in almost 10 years of marriage there have been “moments”, as David Fraze put it so well at our wedding. Those “moments” have made us stronger as a couple, and as Christians. I know there will be many more in the next 50-70 years. God will guide us through them, too.

— Damon

PS – Chris, I think the passage you referenced is Titus 2:3-5. the next three verses say the same thing about us men…

]]> By: Lauren http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/comment-page-1/#comment-1721 Lauren Sun, 25 Mar 2007 03:29:00 +0000 http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/#comment-1721 Good post--very insightful and true! Good post–very insightful and true!

]]> By: Chris http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/comment-page-1/#comment-1720 Chris Sat, 24 Mar 2007 05:25:00 +0000 http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/#comment-1720 You know why love is blind right? If people knew what they were getting into they would not do it. :) - Paul's advice best here.<br/><br/>I think for us, we do not fight as much as we used to early on in our marriage. I think we partly just got more used to each other, and partly becoming more mature and realizing that it is just not worth it. But mostly we are just too tired from the 5 kids. LOL.<br/><br/>I believe there is a Bible verse about the older wives teaching the younger wives how to love their husbands. It is no easy task I am sure. You know why love is blind right? If people knew what they were getting into they would not do it. :) – Paul’s advice best here.

I think for us, we do not fight as much as we used to early on in our marriage. I think we partly just got more used to each other, and partly becoming more mature and realizing that it is just not worth it. But mostly we are just too tired from the 5 kids. LOL.

I believe there is a Bible verse about the older wives teaching the younger wives how to love their husbands. It is no easy task I am sure.

]]> By: Kim http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/comment-page-1/#comment-1719 Kim Sat, 24 Mar 2007 05:16:00 +0000 http://ericswife.com/index.php/2007/03/stinking-hard-work/#comment-1719 Amen sister! Seriously though, you're right...marriage is work, and stinkin' hard work some times. You have to put alot of effort into it to get the reward of a good relationship. And even when you put in the hard work, it's still not always wonderful and peachy =) This is from the "old" married couple of 5 1/2 years...we were actually the ones that had been married the longest in a group of our friends tonight! ha! Amen sister! Seriously though, you’re right…marriage is work, and stinkin’ hard work some times. You have to put alot of effort into it to get the reward of a good relationship. And even when you put in the hard work, it’s still not always wonderful and peachy =) This is from the “old” married couple of 5 1/2 years…we were actually the ones that had been married the longest in a group of our friends tonight! ha!

]]>